Few people believe they can have whatever they want in life. It often gets turned into whatever they think they can get. It’s no wonder only a few of us actually succeed in fulfilling our heart’s desire.
Most people are buffeted by challenges and losses of some kind or other. Or, they have never developed a strong enough self-image, as a child. If they dared to step out of the mold, they were quickly corralled back in. Others were victims of the old saying, “Children should be seen and not heard”. It could have been any number of experiences that deeply imprinted themselves in their child’s mind at the time.
Learning To Survive
As young children, no matter how wonderful their world was, they did not have all the resources at their disposal. And so they coped the best way they knew how, to survive and move on. And, most people have been very successful at getting through childhood traumas and hurts.
The price paid however, is they just want to live a regular life. Without upsetting any major routines or loved ones, they hope to make it safely to retirement and eventually to death. But where’s the joy in that?
Dare anyone ask for more? If the answer is yes, then you need to ask another question. What kind of ‘more’ does your heart yearn for. Forget asking your mind for the moment, as it will likely just want to increase its pleasure or avoid pain. And, it got you into this predicament in the first place.
Entrepreneurs, on the other hand, always want to create more. However, they too, can still fall into the trap that most other people fall into when the day-to-day strain of living is allowed to build up. As Cicero said, “The price of freedom is eternal vigilance”.
Ancient Secrets Of Success
Wise people since ancient times have learned how to bypass the security guardof the mind for this important step. Then once the heart has taken command, the mind is called on as an able helper in fulfilling the desires of the heart. It makes a good servant. But only the heart is the true master, as Tulshi Sen reflects on throughout his book, Ancient Secrets of Success for Today’s World.
Also it is best to keep this stage private and not share it with others. Families and friends are renown for sabotaging dreams before they even get formed as seeds. Then the damage is done. It’s not out of spite, but out of genuine worry that you will fail. And there is no better way to create failure than to fear it, is there? They may also secretly fear you will succeed, change and no longer need them. And most people hate change. It takes them right out of their comfort zone.
Now, when you manage to begin the required inner work, it will probably trigger a whole host of reactions, excuses and interference from your own mind. After all, you are disturbing your mind’s peace as well. So, you would be wise to begin with small things at first. This way you can train your mind to take direction from your heart, rather than letting it stifle your true desires. I just love the quote of James Allen, “He thinks in secret and then it comes to pass”.
Courage and Perseverence
Most important, it’s crucial never to give up. If you have been diligently doing this process for a while and then become discouraged, it means you are probably getting closer than you think. Do you remember the saying, “It’s always darkest before the dawn”? This stage is often your ego’s last ditch effort to keep it from losing control over you. The ego wants to sting success just as you reach for it.
By persevering, this process will strength you further. You will be able to feed your heart more and more, day by day. Each genuine step, when taken, will move you in the direction of your heart’s desire. Now that is a life worth living.
People often interchange the terms ‘wants vs desires’. So, this query is very subtle. Our mind may even purposely dismiss its inherent nuances. Yet our answer will reveal how we live our life and work on our business.